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Challenge 2: Don't use your phone on your commute

Week two of Live A Better Life: Challenge yourself.

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IT’S WEEK TWO of our Live A Better Life series, and it’s all about challenging yourself.

Yesterday, we deleted one app. Did you do it? If so, how did you get on?

Today, we’re turning our attention to how we use our phone during our commute.

That’s a lot of checking.

If you commute, do you check your phone?

If the answer is yes, then today’s challenge is to NOT use your phone on today’s commute.

Yes, you’ll be tempted to use it. Yes, you’ll find yourself reaching for it.

(Don’t commute? Then why not take an hour this evening away from your phone before dinner – similar to what we suggested last week.)

Here’s what we suggest you do instead:

Look around as you travel, and take note of three things you never noticed before.

Yes, it’s that simple.

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So, why are we doing this?

As CAMHS senior psychologist Mark Smyth told us, we don’t always spend time on our own, with our own feelings. We can just pick up the phone to distract us.

“It’s at your fingertips. You never learn to have to tolerate feelings of loneliness and being in your own mind because you can always reach out [on your phone], but that’s not always a good thing,” he points out.

The stress tolerance of dealing with those emotions, it’s almost become a lost art. If someone comes into a restaurant or pub and is waiting for a friend, almost exclusively what you will see is them reaching for their phone.

It’s a “safety resort” for us, says Smyth, which helps us escape boredom or feelings we don’t like.

The preoccupation with smartphones on public transport is something that people often remark on – leading to tweets like this:

Smyth indicates that our commute might not be hellish, but maybe we could be experiencing emotions like relief, joy, inquisitiveness. You could be noticing that you feel glad to be heading home, or apprehensive about work tomorrow.

When we feel uncomfortable emotions, “we resort to safety behaviours and our phone is the easiest safety behaviour”, says Smyth.

“We can create a safe cocoon around ourselves, and it’s OK because it’s become so normal,” he says of public phone use.

It’s not so negatively judged anymore. It’s become socially acceptable because that’s become the norm and when behaviour becomes so frequent that everyone is doing it, no one sees it as strange anymore.

How do you feel after this: does it change your commute in any way?

  • Does it make it more boring, or less boring?
  • Did you find yourself reaching for your phone?
  • Did this challenge make you think differently about how to use your phone on your commute?

Tell us more in the comments. 

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    Dec 18th 2023, 10:54 AM

    No snow forecast for tonight!

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    Dec 18th 2023, 2:31 PM

    @KTH: yeah, that’s his white Christmas gone

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    Dec 18th 2023, 11:42 AM

    Of course this will have zero impact on drug supply, and gives dealers a great excuse to charge more, meaning more profits for gangd.

    And of course it cost taxpayers thousands to capture this small amount of drugs. And to waste court time and polo r resources.

    A lose lose for everyone except some gangs.

    Great work.

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    Dec 18th 2023, 1:10 PM

    @Chris O’Brien: You really never have anything positive to say.sad.

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    Dec 18th 2023, 1:15 PM

    @John Terry: I disagree troll

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    Dec 18th 2023, 2:36 PM

    @Chris O’Brien: So what should have happened then, give it back and tell him next time bring in a bigger amount, because this amount is not worth the hassle!

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    Dec 18th 2023, 12:17 PM

    The ongoing :war on drugs” that costs millions and achieves very little.

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    Dec 18th 2023, 1:09 PM

    @Pato: Should we just let people at it and make them all legal?

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    Dec 18th 2023, 2:31 PM

    @John Terry: yes

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    Dec 18th 2023, 3:11 PM

    @John Terry: That is how individual freedom should work, alas we must fall in line to keep the upper lip nice and stiff.

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    Dec 18th 2023, 3:24 PM

    @Thesaltyurchin: We must be one of the worst people in the world for having zero personal responsibility……everything is the governments fault with us.Do you think access to hard drugs is a good idea.I bet as well people will expect them to be free as well …….’my entitlements’

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    Dec 18th 2023, 2:01 PM

    Awful for the dealer, just before Christmas.

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    Dec 18th 2023, 12:02 PM

    Shite I’ll have to contact my other supplier :)

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    Dec 18th 2023, 6:38 PM

    Don’t you just hate people who take drugs, like custom officers and policemen?

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