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OVER THE LAST five weeks, people around Ireland have been asked to change how they live, to help slow the spread of coronavirus (COVID-19).
Instead of going to offices, schools, colleges, bars, restaurants and pubs, we’re staying at home and restricting our trips outside to only essential journeys.
As well as this, people at the highest risk of contracting the virus, due to age or underlying health conditions, are being asked to ‘cocoon’ at home. That means they should stay at home at all times, avoid face-to-face contact with others, and arrange for food and medicine to be delivered.
It’s a big ask, and a lonely time for many, but the guidelines are necessary to protect the most vulnerable in our society. We spoke to three people around the country who are currently cocooning, to find out how their experience has been so far…
Margaret Martin, 81, lives in Cobh, Co Cork. She’s been restricting her movements since mid March, and cocooning since March 27. Margaret has stage 4 ovarian cancer, and has a live-in carer with her at home.
If someone told me a few months ago that I’d have to go more than five weeks without leaving the house, I’d have said, ‘Are you mad?’ But now that it’s actually happening, it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. It’s a kind of mindset. Once you resign yourself to the situation, you can get through it.
From the start I said, ‘I have to do this in a structured way’, so I made out lists and lists of things that needed doing around the house. There’s always a cupboard that needs tidying, believe me. So I get up around 9.30am, do some tidying or maybe polish some brass, have a cup of coffee and head out to the garden.
I’ve been getting shopping delivered from the local supermarket in Cobh for many years now, so I’m lucky in that sense because it’s nothing new for me. They’re marvellous, I have my favourite lady in there, I ring at 8am on a Friday morning and they deliver in the early afternoon. The same goes for my local pharmacy who deliver my medication.
The biggest change for me is that I’m not able to spend time with family and friends. I have six grandchildren, and I miss them and all the things they chat about. Most of my friends are in the same boat as me, so we can’t meet for lunch, but we’re having daily phone or FaceTime conversations.
I think I would be a bit worried to go out anyway at the moment, or being in crowded places. We’re all missing each other, but we’re doing this for a good reason.
Aoife Rafter, 28, lives with her family in Naas, Co Kildare. Aoife has cystic fibrosis, and in June 2019 was diagnosed with cervical cancer. She’s now cancer-free after five months of treatment. She has been cocooning since mid March.
I’m on my fifth week of cocooning and it’s getting harder. People with cystic fibrosis are used to being cautious about contracting infections, and having just finished radiotherapy at the end of January, I was already being extra careful. But the current situation is a step up.
I’m living in my family home with my mum, her husband and my younger sister. I would always have felt safe inside my own home, but it’s different now because the risk is so high. We don’t spend time together at all. We try not to linger around one another, so I’ll just pass them in the house, or we’ll have a chat in the garden where we can keep our distance.
If they leave the house and come back, I’m on edge then because they’ve been outside. We’re lucky that there’s a separate bathroom I can use, so I’ve confined myself to that bathroom, my bedroom and the back garden. I disinfect my living space every day. If I have to go downstairs at all, I’ll wear latex gloves, and I come back upstairs to eat.
It’s the small things that get you. It’s not like I’d have been hugging my mum every single day before, but now I really miss being able to do that. I’m looking forward to getting that freedom back.
I’m doing as much as I can to stay well and not get run down, but it is definitely more difficult when your movements are limited. For people with CF, exercise is a big part of their physiotherapy, but I can’t even get out for a walk, so I’m trying to do a couple of workouts on Zoom during the week.
I’ll FaceTime my friend for a coffee most days, I’ve done some Zoom catch-ups with all the girls too, and my boyfriend and I have been trying to improvise: we’ll watch a movie together over a video call.
Having been through so much health-wise, I’m getting used to the feeling of not knowing what’s ahead of me. There’s a lot of uncertainty for everyone right now, and it’s hard to plan for the next four or five months because I have no idea if I’ll even be working, with the way things are. But as long as we’re all well and healthy I don’t care.
Billy O’Toole, 33, lives with his girlfriend in Co Mayo. Billy was born with cystic fibrosis and had a double lung transplant in October 2010. He has been cocooning since early March.
Three months after my transplant in 2010, I got swine flu and was in a coma for a week. It took over my body. I lost some lung capacity as a result, and still have some other underlying issues due to the cystic fibrosis too.
I’m well aside from that, but right now I need to be way more cautious than usual. Cocooning is the only way for me to protect myself.
I started staying at home from the beginning of March, as a precaution. I work full-time for a food company and would generally have to do a lot of store visits, so I rang work and said, ‘Look, this is what the situation is,’ and they understood. I took two weeks’ leave. After a couple of weeks it started to become more dangerous for me to go outside, so I had to continue.
I live with my girlfriend, and I have three lovely older sisters looking after me too, they drop food to the gate. But my dad is 76, and he’s cocooning, so we can’t see one another at all. I’m very close to my family so it’s really hard not seeing them.
As well as not having those natural interactions with people, I miss my outpatient hospital appointments too. When you have an underlying condition, getting a regular check-in, and a confirmation that everything is ticking along okay, is really reassuring.
It’s difficult not having the regular routine of work. Right now I’m trying to get as much fresh air in as possible in the garden, and trying to keep in touch with people too. I’m on a soccer team with people who’ve had transplants, and while we can’t train, there’s lots of chat on WhatsApp, which is great. We’re all motivating one another to get up every day and get moving.
Every effort counts in slowing the spread of coronavirus. This is a challenging time for everyone out there, so thank you for playing your part. For tips on keeping well and active at home, visit gov.ie/together and for updated factual information and advice about coronavirus, go to hse.ie.
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The only Royles I care about are Jim and Barbera
@Kieran Cronin: Bit unfair on Denise and Anthony Kieran, what did they do wrong?
@Kieran Cronin: Get that will ya Barb !!
@Seamus Kelly: my ar*e
@Seamus Kelly: my ars*
@Seamus Kelly: BarBeara….. Please!!!!!
To be fair Harry seems like the kind of fella you would go for a pint with and have the crack ,but she has him running, she’s calling the shots. It’s all about her and she is the victim.
@Conor Noonan: you haven’t been paying attention then
@Conor Noonan: did you watch it or do you just believe what the British tabloids chose to tell you?
I think they’re great. The best kind of Mavericks. They seem like a strong unit that didn’t want to be a part of an institution that is clearly unhealthy and toxic. The British press may have just given away the only hope the royal family had of moving into the modern era.
@2thFairy: There’s a line in Withnail and I (that won’t be accepted here) that sums up their course of action. Bear in mind that this interview was given for payment and to raise a profile using the only thing they have to trade. I very much doubt that it’ll prove to be worth it.
@Alan McArdle: There was no payment!
@Alan McArdle: What line Alan? Gone on holiday by mistake? Who says it?
@Colette Kearns: ppc??
@Alan McArdle: You didn’t pay attention, there was no payment.
@Alan McArdle: there was no payment.
This media stunt by the 2 of them will backfire and they will be the losers in the long run….the English and the Welsh love their royals and the red tops will turn on Harry and Megan…. watch megan’s body language and remember she is an actor …also remember fighting with family seems to be a hobby of hers…she portrays herself as a victim always
@Kevin50: you mean the gutter red tops will continue to thrash her daily and the brain dead will lap it up and spout their rhetoric for them? She said it herself, she left her house while pregnant twice in four months yet there was daily stories in the rags painting her in a negative light.
Two irrelevant dots on the landscape.
As an actress she should have watched Blackadder.
The truth which will be buried by the institution.
@Liam Dempsey: always has been and always will be. Unfortunately. Diana Francis Spencer RIP.
@Paul Gorry: “Frances “
The most thing that I took from the Oprah interview, is what a completely toxic institution the British Royal family is. It’s not the individual members that are toxic but the firm they work for. They dare not set a foot wrong, say a wrong word, for fear of the tabloid media who have the power to destroy them. It would be healthier for all of them if they did what Harry did, but they all appear to be trapped, afraid to move for fear of upsetting the goose that is laying the golden egg. I think we are witnessing the slow disintegration of a dysfunctional family and institution. The British Royal family should start retraining for new careers before the liquidators move in.
Only watched this because the Mrs had it on
Seriously
1 If any harm comes to Harry, Megan or their children by a terrorist the Royal family will never live down withdrawing their security.
Jokingly
2 Now that they are outside the Royal circle, Crossmaglen would probably be the safest place for them to settle down.
@Michael Flanagan: The best gag there was you were only watching it because your Mrs had it on.
She’s some mover! We want privacy but air your dirty linen on international tv!!!
@JongaFe: There is a massive difference between the constant intrusion and harassment of the paparazzi and giving an interview on your own terms. A bit like the difference in being force fed and eating your own food.
The part of the documentary that stuck with me most was Oprah’s inability to pronounce Meghan Markle’s name. Unbelievably grating. MAAAAYGAN.
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