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‘TIS THE SEASON to be busy. Many people are working today (and even yesterday), and life marches on, even in this ‘holiday’ period.
It’s not surprising then that not everyone might be feeling as perky as we’re meant to at this time of year. All through the next week, TheJournal.ie - inspired by the #LittleThings campaign – will be looking at ways in which you can give your life a lift, and stop those low times that we all have occasionally from developing into something more serious and long-term.
Today: How a sense of connection (with your community, loved ones, yourself) is a positive force – and knowing when and how to ask for help when you need it.
A number of studies have shown that there is a correlation between good mental health and “pro-social” behaviour; in other words, if you participate in your local community or volunteer, it makes you feel more positive in general.
For young people, being connected to their peers and their schoolmates is associated with positive mental health.
We tend to hear advice about reaching out in tough times. That can be harder to do if you haven’t cultivated a strong social network when you’re feeling good about yourself, ie, probably when you least feel you need it – but that’s actually the best time to lay the foundations.
Stockpile a bit of social capital for yourself
According to a Welsh strategy for improving the mental health of the general populace,
Although material living conditions and socio-economic status are stronger predictors of ill health, social support can partially offset the effects of deprivation, notably for children.
Relationships and a sense of connection give us strength in times of adversity. Even something as basic as how many people you speak to in the course of your day can help.
A study in Galway found that “persons living in walkable, mixed use neighbourhoods were more likely to know their neighbours, participate politically, trust others and be socially engaged, compared with those living in car-oriented suburbs”.
Staying connected
Even if you do have to spend time in the car to get to where you need to go, it’s worth thinking about any leisure time you might have. Could you call into a neighbour you normally don’t have time to see during the working week? Walk to the local shop for a grocery basic? Take part in a local group like the Tidy Towns, a sports club or similar?
There are some organisations that are really trying to help people get connected socially, particularly on a local level. The Men’s Sheds movement is an excellent outreach for men to find support and friendship with each other in their local community.
CEO of the Irish Men’s Sheds Association John McEvoy, told TheJournal.ie that ‘Shedders’ are not just for men struggling in life, although it has helped people who are feeling isolated or in crisis. They come, rather, “to share knowledge, experience, ideas, creativity and skills”. He says:
The fact is that when a group comes together and creates something positive for the community, then the outcomes are positive for everyone.
There are now 7,000 members attending 220 Men’s Sheds across the country each week.
Targeting another demographic entirely is the Jigsaw programme which is already up and running in 10 communities across Ireland, from Dublin to Donegal, Kerry to Galway, Offaly to Roscommon. The Jigsaw network allows young adults to come together and talk about their problems – the involvement of the young people themselves in structuring the programme means there is support without judgement or stigma.
Reaching out – even just a little bit
Úna Minh-Kavanagh is a food writer and journalist who knows what it’s like to begin to feel disconnected from life. When she begins to hit a low, she describes it as a visceral feeling, of “a little cloud arriving over you, pushing down on top of you”.
She says she now heeds the warning signs and will “step away if I have a slew of meetings or certain events”. Not all contact is helpful, all of the time. But, she says, also knowing when and who to reach out to is important.
It can be your family or your close friends but sometimes it can also be a stranger, a professional, or something like The Samaritans, where you can drop an email or a text.It depends on the person. I can be a stubborn person and sometimes you’ll think, ‘Oh I can weather this one out’ but personally I know it helps to let my mom or my boyfriend know if I’m not feeling okay.
Irish people are getting better at reaching out, Úna believes, in large part because of the overall conversation around mental health, which she thinks is becoming normalised and losing its stigma.
“In college, we were a close-knit group and there were support services there, but when it came to socially there would still be some people who would hear someone was feeling down and instead of saying, ‘Well, she’s not feeling her best right now’, would say, ‘Oh, there is something wrong with her’,” says Úna.
This is changing, she feels, particularly with more people sharing their own experiences of mental health challenges – especially on blogs and social media – and a growing awareness that we will all have times in our lives when it would serve us well to reach out and say: I’m not feeling 100%.
In support of that open conversation, Úna – along with others with lived experience of depression – have shared their stories with the #littlethings campaign.
It’s great to know you are not alone.
Úna’s story of learning to reach out – even through a simple text – is illustrated here:
RESOURCES TO HELP YOU GET – AND STAY – CONNECTED:
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Please journal..can ye wait till Halloween is a memory before posting photos of the big red fella…
Santa will always work for free anyway, his contract is close to the 0hours contracts also, Sc** that bought this company and sold it off straight away for a profit! Which the government allowed and put all these people out of work before Christmas! REMEMBER WHEN VOTING THIS YEAR LAB/ FG DURING THEIR TIME IN GOVERNMENT 5YEARS THEY PUT NO PROTECTION FOR WORKERS RIGHTS AND STILL HAVE NOT!
Spot on Joe.
It’s worth reminding people that the asset strip of this landmark store was another example of the Irish state protecting the interests of domestic and international capital over the welfare of the majority citizens as it has always done.
The sellers Gordon Brothers manipulated the corporate and legal structures for the efficient asset stripping the company. This involved separating the operations side of the business (OCS Operations) from the valuable property (OCS Properties).
OCS properties was making substantial profits on the back of OCS operations which was loss making as it was required to pay €300, 000 a month rental to it’s sister company OCS properties. If the 2 companies were not deliberately separated then there is no rent payable and the business is viable. It’s a neat little corporate ruse designed to allow the asset stripping of the company, exactly as occurred.
The operations business was then liquidated leaving the employees and creditors with little or nothing while the property is then sold for a massive profit. The statutory redundancy for the workers of course will be paid for by the state as the vultures swagger off with the loot.
The buyers Natrium have also sorted out their tax affairs and use hedge funds based in tax havens like Cayman and Guernsey so that they can avoid making any contribution to the society and workers that they prey on.
Meanwhile insiders like KPMG work for both sides and acts as liquidators on one hand and auditor for the buyers Cheyne Capital Management on the other. Cheyne Capital Management is one half of the joint venture Natrium which also consists of D2 Private owned coincidentally by a former KPMG employee. KPMG executed the sale at 2.30 am on the Friday morning just in time to avoid paying over the estimated €2 million owed to the concession holders.
This ransacking of the company, employees and the citizens was all perfectly legal as the law designed largely to protect the interests of capital and represses the working class.
Wally, people stopped shopping there, it’s really that simple. The store never moved with the times. Massive footfall bypassed the store everyday, they let themselves become irrelevant.
Ho Ho Ho
No Scarce. As already explained, Clerys was profitable as a single entity.
OCS properties which owned the building made a profit of around €5 million between August 2012 and January 2014 which equals the €300k monthly rental figure it received from OCS operations over the period. OCS operations made a loss €2 million during the same period.
If the 2 companies are combined as they originally were, then that leaves a net profit of €3 million.
Separating the property was the root cause of the subsequent business losses, exactly as planned in the asset strip.
Would you mind asking Santa if he could fix the time on Clearys clock before he heads off. It will nearly be showing the correct time when the clocks go back this weekend.
Everyone knows the Santas in shops & shopping Centres are an army of Santa’s cousins who help him out. It’s part of his magic.
I would love to go, Just one question everyone should ask themselves….Does the proceeds from this Santa go to any of the companies/People that had any hand at all on closing this store and more importantly showing little regard to its staff? A confirmation of this one way or the other will allow me to make a conscious decision to bring my little fella or not!
I doubt very much the workers will get a penny from this Santa. Unless they set one up beside the Clerys Santa. Calling themselves the original Clerys Santa
I will avoid it like the plague to show solidarity with the Clerys workers
In the same way that idiots suggested boycotting the best pop up store after clerks collapse. You know the one that was trying to keep Best concession staff from clerys in work by liquidating their stock! Solidarity is a strange thing sometimes. Either that or you do t understand the word
dunnes do a better one
O my, Sant has a shaft in one hand and a bell end in the other, who choose that photo??? lol.
All the anti-Semites can gather there and it will be easy for the Gardai to monitor their activities.
Wrong blog.
Is Santa anti Semite?
I’d sooner see Satan!
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