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'From a very young age, I knew I was the same as a murderer or rapist'

Watch Dustin Lance Black’s incredible speech at UCD.

DUSTIN LANCE BLACK gave an incredibly moving speech to UCD’s Law Society about gay rights this week.

The activist and Oscar-winning screenwriter spoke about growing up as a member of the Mormon Church in Texas, when being gay was still illegal in the US.

Black told students the Mormon Church “makes the Catholic church seem really open-minded”, noting he was taught from a young age that being gay was akin to being a murderer.

Growing up in that church I heard from a very, very early age that homosexuality was sin next to the crime of murder. So from the age of 3, 4, 5, 6, – when I was just a little kid, three foot tall – I knew that I was right down there with all the sinners and the murderers and the rapists. It was very scary.

During the moving speech, Black spoke of the fear he felt about coming out to his family.

“I knew that I was a sinner. I knew that I was a criminal,” he said.

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Black said he and his mother “talked endlessly” about everything.

One night when he was home from college for Christmas, he said his mother started to complain about the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell rule in the US military being “too inclusive”.

Black said he prayed, in vain, for him not to cry in front of her because she would then know the truth about his sexuality.

Before I knew it that first tear had hit my cheek and that room went silent and I looked up into her eyes – and this is a good Southern Mormon mom, I mean she knew. She knew.

I didn’t have to say anything. But, loud and clear, what I heard in that silence was that it wasn’t OK. That she was afraid for her son. What had she done wrong to break her precious boy and how could she fix this horrible problem? That’s what that silence said.

Black went on to tell the audience of the surprising way his mother reacted when she met his college friends, many of whom were gay.

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Black, who is in a relationship with British Olympic diver Tom Daley, said the upcoming vote on marriage equality in Ireland “scares” him as “this isn’t a right that should be put up for a vote”.

“This is a fundamental right that is bigger than any one belief system, bigger than any one religion. It is a fundamental right of being a human being able to marry the person that you love.”

He said Ireland is “on the cusp of change” and encouraged people to make sure they get out and vote on 22 May.

“Go out and tell your stories,” he said.

Black has been awarded honorary life membership of UCD Law Society.

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    Mute Sean O'Dhubhghaill
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    Jul 16th 2024, 8:41 PM

    #COYGIG!! Fantastic evening for soccer in Ireland.

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    Jul 16th 2024, 8:42 PM

    @Sean O’Dhubhghaill: Really great win.

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    Mute Setanta O'Toole
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    Jul 16th 2024, 9:31 PM

    @Sean O’Dhubhghaill: you are right, amazing performance. You kind of wonder why they couldnt pull it out for the other games though. Still it will give them great confidence going to the playoffs.

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    Mute S Suilleabhain
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    Jul 16th 2024, 11:56 PM

    @Sean O’Dhubhghaill: its a shame you’re not very consistent AND you think FG have overseen some massive recovery in Ireland that they havent

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    Jul 17th 2024, 10:08 AM

    @S Suilleabhain: What has that got to do with his COYGIG comment and this article? Was a comment of his deleted from this page?

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    Mute Stanley Marsh
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    Jul 17th 2024, 10:23 AM

    @Setanta O’Toole: For the same reason probably that the Ireland’s men’s team would be lucky to win any match if they were in the same group as the 2nd, 3rd and 6th raned teams in the world i.e. France, Belguim and Portugal.

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    Mute S Suilleabhain
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    Jul 17th 2024, 9:00 PM

    @Injustice Cop: he was odious to me & nasty and is routinely. I’ll say what I like and dont regard him as anything like a decent Irishman

    strange username you have there, ironic.

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    Mute Paul A Kane
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    Jul 16th 2024, 8:44 PM

    Well done indeed ladies .

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    Jul 16th 2024, 8:54 PM

    Brilliant result. Really attacked today and that goal v England gave them the emputis to push on in this game. Super venue also.

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    Jul 16th 2024, 9:09 PM

    Brilliant! Well done everyone – delighted for you all

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    Jul 16th 2024, 9:37 PM

    Great result for Mna na hEireann

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    Jul 16th 2024, 10:11 PM

    To be fair. This was a great win against a top women’s team. Maybe now they realise that they are better then they think and give them a boost for the next time. Well done ladies.

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    Jul 17th 2024, 7:52 AM

    Well done, great to see them finally getting a well-deserved win. Hope sign of things to come for them.

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    Jul 17th 2024, 2:37 AM

    @ S Suilleabhain: You are pathetic. On an article concerning a great victory for our Women’s National Team you somehow have to bring completely unrelated politics into. How does it feel to have failed so miserable in life? There ar3 people all around you, from every part of the country have successfully made a decent life for themselves under the same circumstances you had to live under. You are a bitter failure. The soo wrong you take responsibility for your life the sooner things will improve for you. As long as you bitterly whinge and moan you will always be a miserable failure. Wise up.

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    Jul 17th 2024, 6:39 AM

    Coolaboola

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    Jul 17th 2024, 1:16 PM

    Great performance. I’m having a piece of humble pie for lunch!

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